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Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Valentine's Day...The Superbowl of Love

It's time to celebrate Valentine's Day or as I like to call it: the Super Bowl of Love. It's the red-letter heart day that men and women alike want to score big points with someone special. The pressure is on. No fumbling allowed. Tackling is encouraged. Winning is everything. The Valentine's Day playbook revolves around matters of the heart, love, romance and doing something extra nice for someone we cherish. Flowers, candy, cards, a bottle of wine...all traditional ways to show we care. But what is it that attracts two people in the first place? And what keeps them together? Age-old questions. Is it love at first sight? Physical appearance? Social status? Muscles? Cleavage? Bedroom eyes. Sexy legs? A great smile? Personality? Intelligence?

Six pack abs or bodacious boobs might spark initial infatuation. But personally, I think lasting relationships are about much more than physical eye candy. Positive behavioral traits generally win out over superficiality. Don't get me wrong. Good looks can't hurt and a fun sense of humor is an asset. But as far as I'm concerned, one of the most important attributes in the process of falling in love and staying in love is kindness. That may sound pollyanna-ish and old-fashioned. But look around at couples who have weathered many storms and still remain blissfully together. Real, deep, satisfying love blazes with kindness, thoughtfulness, consideration, appreciation, understanding, respect...all similar characteristics that combine to create passionate, enduring and endearing, happy and successful long-term relationships. I can attest to that with my own special guy. We've been happily married (most of the time) for over 30 years. And that's what I call a winning touchdown in the crazy game of love. Sphere: Related Content

22 comments:

KeLLy aNN said...

Tackling IS in! {snickersnicker}

Marla said...

You know it, Boomer. We have been married almost 34 years and it is all about being best friends for us.

Char said...

I have been married for 36 years...if I add all three of them together. lol

xoxo

Douglas said...

I am sorely disappointed that tackling is out but, at my age, that's probably a good thing. Looks do attract but you have to become friends for a relationship to last.

Boomer Pie said...

Kelly Ann and Douglas: You're right about tackling. I revised it to say that tackling is encouraged! At least in a gentle kinda way.
Happy V.Day to all of you!

Kathy R. said...

How true. My theory is that two kind people who really try can weather the storms of life together (happily most of the time) as they experience this journey called life. Hopefully helping each other achieve their eternal reward.

{ Persis Shah } said...

wow...this looks like a great blog. thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post today. i'm going away for the weekend...but i'll be sure to come back and read every word that u've written here!

have a nice weekend!

Persis.

Eva Gallant said...

I agree--and I think I'm married to one of the kindest men in the world!

Thanks for dropping by my blog! Welcome!

Julie said...

Hell I'd take a touchback at this point.

Thanks for stopping by my blog. I'll be stalking you now! :)

Bunny said...

Being married for 48 years I think a good thing to remember is don't sweat the small stuff. Remember to respect each other. Laughter is always great medicine. Lots of hugs is good too.

Gwen said...

One of my favorite pieces of advice for newlyweds is "always remember that it's better to be kind than right.". Thanks for stopping by EILCC HQ. Come by anytime; I'll leave the light on for ya. ;)

Fergitude said...

Thanks for your kind words. They were right on. I'm so glad to be following you! I love your humor. The two posts I just read(Valentine's and Superbowl) made my day! I look forward to many more.

DJan said...

You found my blog, so I headed over here to find out about you. Although I think you are a youngster compared to me (born in 1942), I think we are pretty similar in many ways. Love your post, and thanks for the kind comment on mine...

Ian said...

Thanks for checking out my blog, I like what I see here already. I'm in for the long haul! And a special thanks for reading the post about my late mother.

Ian

thedailydoseofreality.blogspot.com

Brenda Grolle said...

My husband and I have been married for 17 years. I wouldn't trade him for anything. He's my best friend and soulmate.

Kat said...

30 years is definitely an accomplishment! Thanks for stopping by my blog. I'm following you now!

Lee the Hot Flash Queen said...

I am so glad you found me so I can stalk you now!! LOVE your blog!!

Sylvia K said...

Great blog for the day! I was married once for 16 years never wanted to try it again. Very happy with my life as it is and has been for the past 30 years. Have four grown kids, no grandkids and I'm extraordinarlly happy. Thanks for stopping by today, glad you enjoyed the visit. I'll be back again! Hope you have a great weekend!

Sylvia

Betsy from Tennessee said...

Hi Boomer, Thanks for visiting my blog. Hope you come back. I am enjoying yours. My hubby and I didn't meet til we were 59 yrs. old. We got married 3 months after our first date.. We've been married for almost 9 years now---and it's been the best 9 yrs. of our lives. I truly didn't know what real love was until I met George. It's truly awesome.

Happy Valentines Day.
Hugs,
Betsy

Arkansas Patti said...

Thank you so much for visiting my blog and I am glad I made the return trip to yours.
Totally agree on what should attract. For me, it is good heart, intelligence, and sense of humor. The rest is just candy.

Sarah said...

I'll take your word for it. I have no clue what makes a relationship works. Happy Valentine!

Kat said...

Tackling is always good :)

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